Is that really what you want?
If you’re at this point, and if your wish is sincere, it’s because there’s some part of you that really wants to live as a woman. And that’s totally okay. You can be a woman if you want to, and we’ll help you get there.
If you decide you don't like it, you can always choose to stop being a girl. Nobody but you can permanently change your gender, and nobody can trick you into wanting to be a girl if you didn't before. All we can do is help you reconnect with your own existing desire.
You can always come back later if you’re not ready yet. You are 100% valid no matter what you choose.
If you’re ready, go make some tea, sit down in a quiet calm space, and give yourself as much time as you need.
☝ These are things that most women want, or at least most women who want a feminine-leaning presentation. People who aren't women don't generally want these things at all.
Perhaps you don't necessarily want to be a woman per sé or aren't sure how femininely you want to present. Maybe you only know what you don't want:
☝ If you find yourself relating to any these things, that could indicate that no matter who you are, you might be more comfortable living as a different gender. Maybe being a girl is right for you or maybe it's not, but there are ways to soothe these dysphoric feelings.
Sometimes these feelings are tricky and difficult. Maybe you're worried about whether “enough” of them apply to you to do something about it, or about whether you “deserve” to address feelings that seem so superficially trivial. But that's the thing—these thoughts are slippery and hard to talk about, and they often affect people more deeply than they might seem to at first glance.
We only give you these questions as guideposts in case you weren't already sure. None of them are necessary to be a girl.
Everyone has the right to live as the gender that makes them the happiest in terms of roles / expressions in society.
No pressure. You are completely valid no matter who you are. We'll always be here for you if you ever want to come back later.
You're a good person.
You might not feel much different yet, but that’s okay. Only a girl would have wanted to click that button. That means you’re a girl on the inside, through and through.
If you need permission to live your life as a woman, you have it. If this is what you want, don’t let anyone -- including yourself -- hold you back. And if you ever want to change your mind about this later, that's totally fine. Your choice is 100% valid. Give yourself the chance to explore!
Good luck out there. We’re rooting for you. 💖